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★ Ayase◆YaLIMxMRD6 > Anyways this sure was a heavy topic (2026/8/31-10:09:40)

★ anonwaha◆bGTvsQ3YBE >

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★ Ayase◆YaLIMxMRD6 > Also, like, way too many bottoms in my life have asked me that question, the answer is no, sorry (2026/8/31-10:01:32)

★ Ayase◆YaLIMxMRD6 > I don't have a degree or a license in being a therapist (2026/8/31-10:01:15)

★ anonwaha◆bGTvsQ3YBE > I might move to the UK so i gotta look into that stuff too more tbh < awesum - then i can pay u to be my therapist :iyahoo:

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★ Ayase◆YaLIMxMRD6 > I might move to the UK so i gotta look into that stuff too more tbh (2026/8/31-10:00:05)

★ Ayase◆YaLIMxMRD6 > Maybe you need a private therapist then, but maybe you are eligable for compensation if you get a diagnosis, youn should look into that (2026/8/31-09:59:26)

★ anonwaha◆bGTvsQ3YBE > so once again i'm convinced that it's just not a real option in the UK ^^; (2026/8/31-09:58:37)

★ anonwaha◆bGTvsQ3YBE > the only "half decent" therapist i had was private, £70 a session circa 2015 (2026/8/31-09:58:16)

★ Ayase◆YaLIMxMRD6 > It took me 2 years or something (2026/8/31-09:58:05)

★ Ayase◆YaLIMxMRD6 > I needed them (2026/8/31-09:57:51)

★ Ayase◆YaLIMxMRD6 > Yeah i had like, 50 sessions (2026/8/31-09:57:47)

★ Ayase◆YaLIMxMRD6 > Wtf okay that's BAD (2026/8/31-09:57:35)

★ anonwaha◆bGTvsQ3YBE > i looked into it a little and i remember one reason why the NHS version sucked - they're limited to 6-8 sessions, and only really do "counselling" and CBT (2026/8/31-09:57:09)

★ Ayase◆YaLIMxMRD6 > Basically, please don't let a few bad therapists prevent you from getting the one that will change your life forever for the better, keep trying please! (2026/8/31-09:57:05)

★ Ayase◆YaLIMxMRD6 > our cats* (2026/8/31-09:56:05)

★ Ayase◆YaLIMxMRD6 > A cat hair removal tool! Because we both loved our cat so much, it was visible on our clothes haha (2026/8/31-09:55:55)

★ Ayase◆YaLIMxMRD6 > I was so grateful to my therpist that i bought her a christmas present that year, which she didn't expect, but was really happy with LOL (2026/8/31-09:55:23)

★ Ayase◆YaLIMxMRD6 > It was rough but i'll never regret it, it was life-changing (2026/8/31-09:54:53)

★ Ayase◆YaLIMxMRD6 > For me, exposure therapy, combined with other forms, was what worked for me in the end (2026/8/31-09:54:30)

★ Ayase◆YaLIMxMRD6 > Well, in the end, yes, it is you who will have to improve yourself, but a GOOD therapist, like mine, will help you get there, and will not let you fall deeper without their hand catching you and teaching you new ways to climb (2026/8/31-09:53:31)

★ anonwaha◆bGTvsQ3YBE > i just find it hard to believe in it at this point - i had resigned myself to the belief that if i want to improve, it's gonna have to be on my own

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★ Ayase◆YaLIMxMRD6 > i had a paid one briefly who taught me CBT and how to get myself out of the house, which was obviously massive for me, but she was otherwise unhelpful and basically told me to stop seeing her because there was nothing she could do < I think you could use a step above CBT to be honest, but i can't diagnose you, you'd need to see a psychiatrist for that, that's what i did too (2026/8/31-09:51:46)

★ Ayase◆YaLIMxMRD6 > I know it seems daunting, but i don't think you're gonna get very far without professional mental health help, no offence, i'm just trying to be honest because i want to see you suffer less (2026/8/31-09:50:56)

★ anonwaha◆bGTvsQ3YBE > i had a paid one briefly who taught me CBT and how to get myself out of the house, which was obviously massive for me, but she was otherwise unhelpful and basically told me to stop seeing her because there was nothing she could do (2026/8/31-09:50:05)

★ Ayase◆YaLIMxMRD6 > You have the right to mental health help, like, as in, literally, it's a legal right for you to get help with the NHS and stuff < it really doesn't feel that way in this country - they make u feel like a burden (;´Д`) < Yeah i know, which is why it's so important to know your rights, so you can use that knowledge, even if they don't feel like it, they have to help you (2026/8/31-09:50:01)

★ anonwaha◆bGTvsQ3YBE > You have the right to mental health help, like, as in, literally, it's a legal right for you to get help with the NHS and stuff < it really doesn't feel that way in this country - they make u feel like a burden (;´Д`) (2026/8/31-09:48:57)

★ Ayase◆YaLIMxMRD6 > I didn't trust therapists after that, until i got the good one (2026/8/31-09:48:55)

★ Ayase◆YaLIMxMRD6 > The therapist my family got for me when i was in my teens still makes me very upset (2026/8/31-09:48:37)

★ Ayase◆YaLIMxMRD6 > Well, beggars can't be choosers, sorry, but you have the right to request a different therapist if the one you currently have is bad, but don't let your family decide that for you < it was never really my family deciding for me - it was just a long series of unhelpful or detrimental encounters < Ah sorry i'm projecting (2026/8/31-09:48:21)

★ Ayase◆YaLIMxMRD6 > You have the right to mental health help, like, as in, literally, it's a legal right for you to get help with the NHS and stuff (2026/8/31-09:48:04)

★ anonwaha◆bGTvsQ3YBE > ehh... the free ones here were the worst ones ^^; < Well, beggars can't be choosers, sorry, but you have the right to request a different therapist if the one you currently have is bad, but don't let your family decide that for you < it was never really my family deciding for me - it was just a long series of unhelpful or detrimental encounters (2026/8/31-09:47:57)

★ Ayase◆YaLIMxMRD6 > one place was constantly switching my therapist every week, another place had a guy who rudely kicked me out as if i'd done something wrong just because i didn't accept compliments in a report he got from other staff < Those people are terrible, it's a good thing you left them (2026/8/31-09:47:38)

★ Ayase◆YaLIMxMRD6 > Free, we have a similair healthcare system here in NL < ehh... the free ones here were the worst ones ^^; < Well, beggars can't be choosers, sorry, but you have the right to request a different therapist if the one you currently have is bad, but don't let your family decide that for you (2026/8/31-09:47:08)

★ anonwaha◆bGTvsQ3YBE > one place was constantly switching my therapist every week, another place had a guy who rudely kicked me out as if i'd done something wrong just because i didn't accept compliments in a report he got from other staff (2026/8/31-09:47:03)

★ Ayase◆YaLIMxMRD6 > Oh also you will have to wait on a waiting list, yes it sucks, but that's why it's good to talk to a GP and get a diagnosis and schedule an appointment with a therapist early, so that you have to wait less long (2026/8/31-09:46:25)

★ anonwaha◆bGTvsQ3YBE > was ur one free or paid? < Free, we have a similair healthcare system here in NL < ehh... the free ones here were the worst ones ^^; (2026/8/31-09:46:17)

★ Ayase◆YaLIMxMRD6 > was ur one free or paid? < Free, we have a similair healthcare system here in NL (2026/8/31-09:45:41)

★ Ayase◆YaLIMxMRD6 > Oh and also, my biggest advice; do not let your family decide for you what kind of mental health help you need! < it's difficult when it's my mother who has to take me everywhere and speak for me ^^; < That's why i'm encouraging you how to use the bus and train! (2026/8/31-09:45:26)

★ anonwaha◆bGTvsQ3YBE > was ur one free or paid? (2026/8/31-09:45:24)

★ Ayase◆YaLIMxMRD6 > You have to let a therapist help YOU, not serve the interests of your family (i fucking HATE those, one of the few things that can make me angry) (2026/8/31-09:45:03)

★ anonwaha◆bGTvsQ3YBE > Oh and also, my biggest advice; do not let your family decide for you what kind of mental health help you need! < it's difficult when it's my mother who has to take me everywhere and speak for me ^^; (2026/8/31-09:44:43)

★ Ayase◆YaLIMxMRD6 > Oh and also, my biggest advice; do not let your family decide for you what kind of mental health help you need! (2026/8/31-09:44:00)

★ hachikuji_mobairu◆naRqMpZoTs > last time I went to one of those they snitches on me XD. although that provably says more about me (2026/8/31-09:43:42)

★ hachikuji_mobairu◆naRqMpZoTs > last time I went to one of those they snitches on me XD. although that provably says more about me (2026/8/31-09:43:41)

★ Ayase◆YaLIMxMRD6 > You have to keep trying if you want to find the right one (2026/8/31-09:43:38)

★ Ayase◆YaLIMxMRD6 > I know it might seem hopeless, but once you find a good therapist, you will know, they will make you cry, and they will help you more than a random stranger like me on the internet can, they're professionals (2026/8/31-09:43:14)

★ anonwaha◆bGTvsQ3YBE > my past experiences tell me that doesn't exist here, so it's hard ^^; (2026/8/31-09:42:29)

★ Ayase◆YaLIMxMRD6 > But what if there was a therapist you never even knew you wanted? What if there's someone even better, waiting for you, but you have to start therapy to be helped by them (2026/8/31-09:42:03)